When I became a mother my life changed in so many ways. My eyes were opened to the fact that everyone was someone’s baby once and I began to see people through the lens of ‘if this was my baby grown up how would I want them to be treated’ . Particularly those old people suffering with dementia or incontinence, or the drunks or druggies, I managed to put my judgements aside and summon up the care and empathy I would want someone to show to my son if he ever ended up in that position.
Parenthood brings its own set of skills that need to be mastered. With a loved one you try to look beyond behaviour you don’t like, find the cause and deal with it. You don’t shout at a cranky toddler and tell him to buck his ideas up ( well not unless you WANT a screaming match) you check that they have enough food, sleep and interest. With a bigger child you have to learn the cunning ways of getting them to do things because it’s FUN to put toys away, or it was their idea. You try to listen and make them feel special.
The funny thing was, that when I applied these tactics at work, to adults, they worked just as well!
Recently at work I have had to develop more ‘managerial’ skills . It isn’t easy for me. Particularly in areas such as delegation or asking for help. Particularly if you are an obsessional control freak.
The fact is though you can’t do it all by yourself and you need to get other people to help. Sometimes, getting someone to help you and showing them how to do it is actually really great for them, an opportunity for them to learn new skills and develop themselves and of course then you have a really good feel good factor.
However I have come to realise that It isn’t just work where I can’t do it all by myself. It’s life! So the time has come to turn the tables and transfer some skills out of work and into home.
I’m asking my family to help me to train for a marathon. I have printed off a training plan and stuck it on the fridge😱😱😱
The idea is that they will see when I have runs to do and will offer to say, cook dinner whilst I go for a run or even come for a run with me!!!!! But what’s in it for them? Well hubster thinks I’m less grumpy when I’m running so that should be enough for both of them😎
So far so good, only 1 session missed and today hubster has done all the hoovering. 1 week down , 40 to go!